Where Does Your Worth Come From?
Over the years, I’ve seen many of my clients suffer through high levels of chronic stress and cortisol because of one particular limiting belief…
They think that their worth is dependent on how much they accomplish, what they look like, and their relationship status. They think their worth is dependent on external circumstances.
Knowing your worth is essential for your happiness and even for your success in life. From the time that we’re born, society conditions us to believe our worth is tied to achievements like level of education, relationship status, net worth, physical appearance, and more. But as people, we’re much deeper than just our accomplishments.
To know your worth is to believe in your intrinsic value as a human being, and to know that you are worthy of respect and acceptance from others.
So why is this so important?
When someone know their INHERENT worth, they have an impenetrable sense of good enough, and therefore, when mistakes are made and challenges come up, they can sustain a sense of being innately worthy of respect. Self-worth is directly tied to self-esteem. A person with low self-esteem has a distorted view of themselves and how others perceive them. Their self-worth and value are diminished based on feeling less than or not enough. That’s a big part of the reason why so many women I work with are burnt out and overwhelmed. They’re constantly thinking about the next thing on the to-do list or the person they need to please because of the need for external validation, rather than thinking about their own needs and how to honor them. It’s SO important to know your worth so you aren’t basing your happiness on how others feel or what they say about you. True happiness comes from within first and then extends to others.
When you have a lower sense of self-worth in the first place, you start to seek that validation from external sources. For me, this played out in my work. I would overwork myself to the point where there were days I wasn’t even taking time to drink water or make lunch. I was so obsessed with making sure I got back to every email, wrote every blog post, and saw as many clients that I could jam-pack into my schedule that it was affecting my physical health. I would work more, sign up for more, and overextend myself in hopes of receiving positive feedback. The problem is, that I ended up on anxiety meds because my mental health was so affected by it. Overworking is something that is now perpetuated and encouraged by hustle culture and negatively impacts our mental health. Plus I ended up resenting a job I once loved because of the frustration of always being ON.
Knowing your worth is critical to being able to trust in your judgment and performance. When we acknowledge our worth in the same light in which we evaluate our friends, family, and coworkers, we’re more likely to take on opportunities to grow, which often leads to advancement and promotion in the workplace and peace and self-care in our personal lives.
When you know your worth, you’re much more likely to speak up for your own needs. Having self-worth builds resilience, increases your ability to deal with situations like getting called out, and creates a willingness to have boundaries with the people around you, overall creating less STRESS in your life.
If you’re ready to let go of the people-pleasing and the perfectionism and to begin to understand your true value so that you can release the weight of the world from your shoulders, I want you to remember it all starts with your mindset. I’m here to help you through our WBK mindset course to learn to create the necessary shifts in your mind so you can feel better in your body.
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