How to Ditch the Negative Self TalkAug 04, 2021
Coming from someone who’s struggled with an eating disorder, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, I know first hand that our minds have tens of thousands of thoughts per day, and a lot of times, those thoughts can be really big bullies.
Most of our thoughts about ourselves are things we would never say out loud to another human. For example, when you look in the mirror, what thoughts go through your mind? I bet at least every so often it’s a criticism of some sort.
“I’m not thin enough.”
“I wish my hair were thicker.”
“I just need to lose 5 pounds.”
“I wish I was taller.”
I know that if you looked in the mirror and thought about how amazing you are - beyond what you look like and what you want to change - you could live a life that feels so much more freeing. You are worthy of that.
A decade of perfectionism and people-pleasing, trying to make my body look a certain way.. all of those things have taught me how our minds can get the better of us. So today, I’m here with some tips that will allow you to get back into your body so that you can see your mind as something that supports you rather than something that rules your life.
- Try to incorporate more positive words into your vocabulary- If you’re constantly telling yourself you can't, then you definitely won’t be able to. The power of manifestation is so real. When your energy is vibrating at the same frequency as what you desire, you’re so much more likely to get it. Replace negative words with positive ones
- Give yourself some credit - often, when we feel frustrated or upset, we only concentrate on the bad things or the mistakes we’ve made. Give yourself a break and acknowledge what you’ve learned from the situation. Even if you messed up, there’s always a silver lining. You may just not know it yet.
- Forgive yourself - constantly beating yourself up about things that have gone wrong won’t change them. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and apologize to yourself for being so hard on yourself.
- Practice presence - pause and take a breath while noticing what’s going on around you instead of reacting is a really powerful tool to get out of your head. If your mind is getting the better of you and you notice those negative thoughts. PAUSE. Make a cup of tea, sit outside for ten minutes, maybe get out your journal and notice what’s going on around you. It’s a great reset. Oh, and please, please, please put your phone away.
Stop and OWN your story so you can live the life of your dreams.